I Am Investing In Myself. Are You?

(October 22, 2009) I sometimes feel that my life is a tornado of activity, projects, expansion and growth. It's all good (and fun) as long as I am staying centered and grounded. In order to achieve that state of mind, which is necessary in the realization of the life of my dreams, I schedule time for myself: I meditate on a daily basis; I regularly schedule a massage or a facial; I exercise; I take the time to breathe deeply; I set an intention for my day, etc.

Another critical element to my centeredness is a happy, healthy marriage.

When I was at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, I learned that the most important vitamin is vitamin L. L stands for love. ☺ Vitamin Love is the most important, nourishing and healing vitamin. It includes attention, touch, hugs and kisses and also support, respect and partnership. Everything one could expect to receive in a marriage.

Recently, I have been struck by the number of encounters and conversations I have had with people who are unhappy in their marriage. Unhappiness in marriage often starts with resentment, blame and anger and then escalates.

For all of you who are not receiving the vitamin L that you need, I have a couple of suggestions.

Cathy’s Action Health Tips:

1) I recommend reading the book  'Getting The Love You Want' by Dr. Harville Hendrix.  I read this book years ago and I was stunned by what I learned in it. In its simplest form, we all unconsciously choose our partners for two basic reasons: (1) they have both the positive and negative qualities of the people who raised us, and (2) they compensate for positive parts of our being that were cut off in childhood. Like I said, I was stunned. It was the beginning of truly taking responsibility for the state of my marriage. Without this book, I would possibly still be in a blaming or resenting mode. I cannot thank Harville Hendrix enough for sharing what he has learned during more than 30 years as a couple therapist.  Click here to know more about 'Getting The Love You Want.' 

2) If you are a woman, you have the power to transform your relationship. I recommend a weekend workshop called  ‘Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women.’  When I participated in that workshop, which can be attended by women only (another way to take time for yourself), I felt like I was learning all the secrets of men. It was awesome information. It taught me how to communicate with men so I could get my needs satisfied. It helped me to understand my husband and appreciate his masculinity. During my workshop, I fell in love all over again for what my husband is and for what he is not.  Click here to know more about ‘Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women.’

By the way, I am taking  'Celebrating Men & Sex' this coming weekend. I am continuously investing in myself. Are you?

I wish you lots of Fun and Joy!
Until next time,

Cathy

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